The Rules Of The Game Called Life

You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of your life. Now, you will have to learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the panorama to learn what you most need to know. The lessons presented are often completely different from those you think you need. There are no mistakes, only lessons. A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are additional lessons to be learned. Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself. When tempted to criticize others, ask yourself what behavior of yours they are mirroring.

You will forget all this. You will forget all the above rules unless you regularly practice some means of staying focused and grounded in the present. Your ego will continually try to trick you into blaming your past or becoming anxious about the realities of life.

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importance of being oneself

Few people understand me throughout my life. The general perception is I am arrogant and stubborn. But nobody ever cared to empathize with those undefined voids inside me which were thirsty for attentions. I don't blame anyone for even I didn't care to understand the real me. Thanks to all those who made me realize the importance of being oneself.

A friendship request Letter

My dear Friend, Hope my word will find you best of your health and cheer. As I am replying you after so many days it's due to the cause of mathematics project that took my all past few days. Still I apologized for my delay reply, please read it and find it in your heart……!
Thanks Friend for extending your esteemed friendship with me that I value much. Your kind word overwhelmed me. The one “he said to not cast your pearls to the swine lest they should trample them under their feet” wow, It touched heart. You know, I never used to be this way. When I was in high-school I had a wonderful group of friends that I spent all my time with. They were good friends. Real ones. After high-school. we drifted apart, especially once I moved to a different city. I had trouble making friends in the new city, but I did meet some people to hang out with. A few of them were fake friends and I had to end things. The real friends have moved away.

When I came here in this university, I try to make very few friends, probably because I didn't try very hard. I felt that I didn't fit in anywhere. Looking back, I can see there were people who tried to befriend me that I do actually like and for some reason I did not take advantage of it.

I understand intellectually that I can be a good friend to someone, and I can be fun to hang out with and I'm loyal. But for some reason when someone I like tries to befriend me, I have trouble believing that they actually like me. I question it and I wonder what they really want out of me.

I want so badly to have a meaningful friendship, but the actual act of becoming close to someone scares me.

I don't have many friends. I have acquaintances, but not many close friends. I was dealing with some personal stuff and I needed someone to talk to. I could not reach any of my closer friends, so I made a mistake and called someone who used to be a close friend but has turned into a bad friend. So, I decided to keep thing within me, It's you only whom I expressed my feeling openly, I believed that it will remain locked in your heart only.

I only have one real friend right now; it’s me/ myself only. I am so thankful to have me as a friend, although I often wish that I had more friends in this city that I could hang out with. I hate when I see something that looks like fun to do, and then I realize I have nobody to go do it with. I hate coming home at the end of the day and wanting someone to talk to, only to realize there is nobody that I can call. So ever since that has happened I have come to realize just how friendless I really am.

I also know what it is like to have to struggle each day to live: I myself have to work out my motivations and use my desire to live more. I don't know if you are like me but I know I have a desire to live a beautiful, normal and decent life. Only I'm not used to using that as a force to get through the day. I've learned to be overly serious but I want to learn to laugh too.
There would be a lot more to say only I feel I am taking too much space here. I will write my story someday when I'll feel I have all the pieces of the puzzle.
Please take care of yourself
With best wishes

I don't want to stop making mistakes

I don't want to control the life, I don't want to control myself. I don't want to stop making mistakes, only want to learn from it.I lead my life by being myself, without controlling my happiness, others, my future, my hormones.I just let things happens spontaneously and they will come.

Sometimes I need to take a break about things that I can't change in this moment, try to understand the reasons and with other eyes see the situation differently, perhaps better. Today I woke up with hundreds thoughts, feeling like to solve all of them, without giving time to think 2, 3 times before doing anything. However I know what I need, I have to be patient, calm and sleep another night, because at the moment I can’t change it. I know tomorrow it will be a better day.

I am not Anna

I am no leader. At best, I am a dreamer with the determination to make dreams come true. As I am here to make my dream come true, I’m sure I can make my country’s dreams come true as well. And that is why I am here in USIT.

I, who came to this college, leaving the comfort of my home, to become something in my life. I am sure, I will. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated. The first day in college is one of them. When I was getting ready for my first day, I felt a tingling in my stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates, there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within me that makes me feel truly alive today. Indian needs the spark that you have within you, Anna’s fast need to be sparked within you and all. You need to keep Anna's spark shining by supporting him. I have the spark within me that is why I am writing you.

Before we become one with some issue we have to become one with ourselves. If we get our own house in order we don’t have to make an effort to be one with the world. The world will want to be one with us. Everyone wants to be friends with happy, rich, thriving neighbors. Nobody wants a family festered with disputes.

A lot is wrong in your country. There are too many differences. The question is not who you blame for this. The question is how do you fix it? Because to do anything great, you have to become one first. Religion, caste, community have existed for centuries. But Gandhi brought them all together for a greater cause, to get the country free. Today, you have another greater cause. To get India its rightful place in the world. To see India the way you want to see it. To make India a prosperous, developed country, where not only the spirit of patriotism, but also the standard of living is high. Where anyone involves in dispute will punish for sure. The time has come for you, and yes for me! To show your corrupt leaders what people power really means. Anna Hazare’s fast is the starting point for corruption reforms in this country.

Democracy is a way of life. It’s not just about documents or governments; it’s about the things we do every day that contribute to society and make it a better place to live.By the People will examine the day-to-day actions that create a democratic way of life. Anna's movement is totally right. In true democratic fashion, I invite you to join the discussion and share your own experiences as a citizen. If you can’t change your own life in response to the greatest challenge now facing our human family, who can? And if you won ’t take the effort to try, why should anyone else? So begin with yourself now.

Jan Lokpal bill is all about having an independent authority against corruption, passing this bill is as important as Anna’s Independence movement is. Some of you may ask, what can I do? Do I keep a fast? Do I join groups on Facebook? Do I come on the streets? Well, all these actions have their place. However, we must make sure this campaign reaches the grassroots, and doesn’t say confine.

You may be ask why I doing this as I am not an Indian, Yes I am not from India but I need to take up the challenges that we face as a people and make them my own, not because I have an obligation to those who are less fortunate, although I do have that obligation. Not because I have a debt to all of those who helped me to get where I am, although I do have that debt. I need to take on the challenge because I have an obligation to myself.
Have a Great Evening My friends!!

BE KIND

It is always possible to be kind. Everyone is deserving of kindness. If you feel someone is not, that’s when they need your kindness the most. Fortunately, the more you consciously practice kindness, the more you unconsciously become kinder. Good evening!!!

HUMANITY IS THE BEST RELIGION IN THE WORLD PART-2

Thank you for your gut-statement my friend who comment on my post and liked it. Most people refuse to be forward enough to say what they think, even in private or among friends and family. I agree with what
you’re saying and I'm not scared to be religiously or politically in correct. Religion is bitter--sweet in my view, because on one hand, it has given support, moral guidance, and a sense of belonging to so many throughout the thousands of years of its inception, BUT on the other hand, it has started more Wars, been used as a cover for the most heinous of acts known to man/woman-kind, and has been used to manipulate, deceive, and plunder literally tens of billions of people throughout the ages.

"Today"...I see it being used for the later more than not, and I think humanity might be outgrowing the need for it. It’s been said by many scholars, theologians, and philosophers that religion may be the biggest downfall of the human race because it is so wide spread and is used to ''control'' huge populous for political Pilate's. I'm beginning to believe that, that is true, and know that it is so deeply cemented into our world culture, it will take hundreds of years more to remove it.
P.s::What I written is completely my thought and the conclusion what I read about the religion and I have no personal fight with any religious person indeed. If I had known then what I know now about the atrocities
being committed in the name of God by its "chosen people" I would have left Religion a lot, lot, earlier than I did. Smile please !!!

Evolution of India and Independence

Just wishing a happy 15th of August to all Indian and whoever wants to celebrate. I just bought a flag today but it certainly does lack the charm. I'm glad the kids around the neighborhood are crazy with their kite and music on their upstairs. It is noisy evening and night (may be) with all the songs and crackers, indeed It's a time for celebrations.  

Evolution of India from a British Dominion to a republic on August 15/8/1947 to commemorate its independence from British rule and its birth as a sovereign nation in 1947 and it is one of the national holidays in India.

India is a nation which is blessed with diverse religions, civilizations, cultures and languages all inter playing with each other in harmony.

This day also marks the gratitude that Indians prosper in a sovereign, secular and democratic soil that stands for the principles of justice, equality, fraternity and liberty; the golden words that form the spirit of their preamble.

Wishing for less pain to the victims of the blow up, wishing for less corruption, more honesty and better leaders. Wishing for a better India.

Try-angle

I put my future in good hands-my own. I believe that the best helping hand that I will ever receive is the one at the end of my own arm. I know that brilliance is not a skill. It is an attitude. I have, and I promised myself to live my life as a revolution not just a process of evolution. For this I am always doing, which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it and I got the conclusion that the best angle from which to approach any problem is the try-angle. Though no one can go back and make a brand new start but anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. Best of Luck

what I am rather what I am not

I am much better student from every point of view, when I live solely for my own satisfaction, than when I begin to worry about the world. The world frightens me, and a frightened body is no good for anything as I know. And I realized that it is better to be hated for what I am rather than to be loved for what I am not.

I want to smile

I want to be alright without you. I want to smile, I want to laugh, I just want to stop lying to myself. You've been pulling me down for way too long and I know now it's time to let you go. It's time I stop worrying about you and your precious little life; it's time I think about myself for a change. It's time I treat myself right and leave behind those who don't. It's time I dig myself out of this hole and start all over again with someone who just might be willing to give me the chance that you never did.

It hurts

Have you ever had that feeling of being unwanted? You have no idea how tough life can be. How many people are going to hurt you? People say you got to be strong, but guess what? Is not that easy. They just keep coming back. Hurting me once again. It hurts. It hurts so badly. I just wish this could have never happened. I guess I am going to be punished. I have made mistakes. It is not so easy to figure it out. I just wish things could be different. Stop for once. Let me be. It’s better to be alone; nobody can hurt you that way. Dreams don’t come true. Come on let’s be honest. I’m tired of pretending. I’m tired of lies. I’m tired of everything’s that going on. I’m tired of crying. I’m just…tired. Don’t you see how hard it is? How difficult it is to make a choice. To just start again, to pretend nothing’s happening. In reality everything’s wrong. Fairy tales are just lies. And now I feel so stupid and mad at myself. Mad for believing. Upset. I’ve tried to be strong. I really do. It’s like a never-ending battle where nobody is on my side. I feel lost and lonely. I used to think everything was all right. Everything was under control, I felt safe. Now that I’ve opened my eyes, I can see clearly. I could say miracles exist. I could say it’s going to be okay, but deep inside me I know it won’t. Maybe I’m not good enough. I know I’m just another person here. Probably I’m not worth it. I look at my own reflection and I don’t like what I see. I’m never satisfied. I’m sick of bullshit. Do you have any idea of how many wishes I’ve made? How many times I’ve believed. I guess it’s not meant to be. I guess I’m right.

Life is unfair

Life is unfair. You place someone first who puts you second. You study your ass off for a final only to get a B in the class when you deserved an A. You give 110% to someone in a relationship when they only give 40%. You're there for your best friend at 3 a.m. when they need it the most, and the next day they don't pick up their phone. You give something your all and sometimes get little to nothing back. You care so much about someone who doesn't care enough about you to say hi once in a while. You give someone your time, and they give you "Sorry, I'm busy". It seems like you're giving everyone everything, and they're just walking away with it.

I am one

I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.

And The River Flows

Victory victory victory Yes, Ruchita ,its a victory for me.It seems I have conquered the world like Alexander the great! Victory after Four years.Four years of plight is not an ordinary thing.Finally I have got divorce from Luxmi. Now I am free,Free Free Freedom at last,You cannot understand the meaning of freedom because you have never lost it.But for me its a great word. Freedom from Luxmi ,Freedom from her Father and Freedom from her mother,the three enemies of my life. When I received this letter of divorce at my college,in my office,I was the happiest man in the world.You cannot understand the meaning of happiness in my context.The first thing that came in my mind was to share this happy moment with my dearest darling. You know who is my dearest darling. Ruchita,I still remember our first encounter.You were appointed a teacher at my village school and you came with your father to join your posting. The problem with you was where to stay and with whom?And finally it was decided that you would stay at my house with my mother a widow whose son studies in University.Thus fate brought you to my house.When I came back to my village in the summer vacation,from the out side of the gate of my house I called,Maa,Maa and it was first time in my life that my mother was not there to open the gate,it was you with your deep and big eyes seem asking some questions,and believe me  it was a magnetic effect on me,I lost myself in your deep eyes,and it was the first time that I didn't think about my mother. You can call it the love at first sight. The golden days of my life with you during the summer vacation are the permanent furniture of my mind,it comes time and again and takes back to me to my past, to you. The Madha river is the witness of our love,The river which is the life line of my village and also which gave us opportunity to come closer.I still remember we sat on its bank looking in each others eyes endlessly ,and without a word we shared our feelings.The mango grove the solitary and suitable place for making love also could not break
the ice.Perhaps we were waiting for the proper time to express our love or may be time was itself waiting .It is said every thing in life is distant. And then came the Spring break.The whole village was celebrating the Spring festival,the Holi,the festival of colors.My friends forced me to drink Bhang(intoxicating drink) and in the evening when my mother served the food I demanded more and more and she asked me to go to bed.How can I forget that spring night,perhaps you also cannot forget when you came to see me,perhaps you were also worrying for me,and suddenly I took you in my arms,it was my first encounter ,bodily touch with an opposite sex,believe me Ruchika I have not forgotten the sensation of your touch and I still live with it. We made a promise with each other to live together for whole life and beyond.But man poses and God disposes,You know after my University result how everything changed.When I came home with my result to share with my mother,she had gone to temple and you were there to share my joy,both of us arms in arms,can you forget that?We were so sure about our future,really I was thinking to talk to my mother for our marriage,and you know my mother and her love for me I was sure she would never deny.

Ruchika,sometimes great success brings curse with it,and you are the witness,God knows how Luxmi's parrents learnt about me from America,perhaps their native relatives informed them that they had caught a suitable boy for their Luxmi,who has stood first in the University with distinction in English Literature and they didn't waste time.
You Know my mother ,the honest old lady,I think you know her more than me.When my father died I was only six and my mother sacrificed her life for me.She never cared for herself  If need be she would give her life for me. We lived in poverty,we lacked food,we lacked good dress,we lacked money,we lacked everything you can say. So when Luxmi's father  came to my mother for marriage proposal, she immediately accepted it believing that her son would never disobey her. Ruchika, you know my mother and why she accepted that proposal,Poor lady wanted to give her son that she could not provide,she never thought for a moment  what her son wanted. Ruchika, you are also to be blamed,You forced me to obey my mother,I can understand you,you also thought a better future for me sacrificing your love.I cannot blame both of you,perhaps both of you were so blind in love that you were ready to sacrifice whatever you had in your possession .

Ruchika don't tell my mother about divorce,I know how to break this kind of news to her.Believe me when she will come to know my plight she will cry with me and will support me. Do you want to know about my Four years plight,my four years married life,four years with Luxmi and with  her parrents,Four years in America?promise that you will not shed tears . But before that you have to give account about yourself ,my mother and my village.If you ask how could I live in America without you,believe me Ruchika  ,you were never away from me.I always had your picture into the front pocket of my shirt which is the nearest point of my heart,so my heart always beat with you,I always breathed with you,I was never alone my darling, your image was always in my mind and imagination.Because of you I could survive,Ruchika. Unfinished story!!!

Love doesn't give us the license to own a person

 We can't force someone to stay with us forever. We have to accept that , love doesn't give us the license to own a person. I have my own life let me live it too. You love me and I love you that doesn't meant that I will run according to your wish, I have many thing in my life beside you if you not gonna understand this than you will remain in the same place but you can't find me along with you that is for sure.
Take care!!

I love my country

I have no country to fight for, my country is the earth, and I am a citizen of the world. You know Patriotism is a kind of religion, it is the egg from which wars are hatched. It is not for him to pride himself who loveth his own country, but rather for him who loveth the whole world. The earth is but one country and mankind its citizens. I am not a Nepali or Indian, I am a citizen of the world. I believe one day we are the citizen of The Globe. I love my country "The Globe ".Peace cannot be achieved through violence; it can only be attained through understanding we look forward to the time when the Power of Love will replace the Love of Power. If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.  Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.

The One Country

I Have a Hard Time

I have far more insecurities than anyone truly knows however, I say all these things I want to accomplish in life, but to be honest, I do not even know where to begin to get there. I live one day at a time hoping for a brighter future, but it's hard to plan a future when I have a hard time even thinking about tomorrow. I don't know anymore then the fact that reality cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.

I’m sorry to be your boyfriend

I’m sorry to be your boyfriend, Now of course I can’t be too angry, because you did everything in the name of being with me and, although I hate to say it, I hate to share things with my friend but due to you now I am in hepatic in front of my friend. Plus, you did redeem yourself completely.

Beep Beep, please don’t ever think of this as being a “you vs. other” situation because it never has been. You were my first love. Savvy. Successful. For years I didn’t think anyone could compete, but you made it clear I wasn’t for you. But everyone needs to be loved back at some point and I guess I never loved you as according to you. Don’t wait for me, who loves you back. I’m sorry if he (Beep Beep) made you realize you had buried feelings for me.

By the way, this is not just stuff I’m typing because I’m mad. Most of what is written on here; I have talked with myself because I am alone without you, but don't care it , just get over it. Really it’s not that hard. And if you find that there is no light at the end of your tunnel, go get some help. Be a “real” Girl

I don't speak only in my name; I hope I achieve to represent a part existing in every one of us. It's part of a kind of mission that I'm evolved in. To manifest, attract a reality that I expect from others. I realize how important our impact has on the future and have to deal with the inherited responsibility and being myself has helped me gain a better understanding that I was not born to follow and I am not sure I was born to lead, but what I am sure is that I was born to fight my way through life and win. I don't blame anyone for even I didn't care to understand the real me. Thanks to you that made me realize the importance of being oneself. Take good care of yourself